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Giving Money as a Wedding Gift

April 4, 2005

Bride and groom cake topper with cash.My daughter is getting married in June and I just returned over $100 worth of items that she got as double presents. Considering that, I recommend giving gift cards or money to the bride and groom. It saves time for them and also they can get whatever they need.

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October 26, 2012

I was invited to the son's wedding of a guy I have played golf with on and off over many years. Long story short, I was not able to attend and I would like to send a card with cash. The question is how much?

By FGM

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October 26, 20120 found this helpful

Send whatever amount that you want to. I would say it would depend on how well you know the people, and how well to do you are.

 
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August 21, 2010

Our daughter's wedding is coming up in 2 weeks. We gave her and her fiance a substantial amount of money to use however they chose on the wedding and reception. We are now considering whether we "should" also give another substantial cash wedding gift, or simply a less expensive, but meaningful gift of some sort. Any suggestions/experiences anyone can share? Also, any ideas about meaningful gifts from parents to the bride and groom that are not too costly?

By Lynne

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August 21, 20100 found this helpful

I guess I would do what you can afford and want to do. My former in-laws gave their oldest daughter $100.00 to apply to a wedding dress being they lived so far apart that the mother of the bride couldn't make it. When I married their son we more or less eloped, everybody knew we were getting married on that date, but we met a pastor in his office and got married. I made my own street length white brocade dress. His parents gave us one $100.00 because that is what they gave his sister.

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Then when the youngest girl in the family got married she made her own gown and the parents gave them $100.00. That was what we got, other than small gifts at various bridal showers. My folks gave us a calf that when it was ready to be sold we got the money from it. This was back in the sixties and people didn't spend as much on things like weddings, etc.

 

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August 21, 20100 found this helpful

We gave our son (my step son) a good amount of money too and we didn't give them another wedding gift. The money we gave them was the gift. But of course we gave engagement, shower gifts too. If you wanted to give a token gift what about a beautiful picture frame for one of their wedding photos?

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If they are religious, maybe a symbol of their faith? We were given several beautiful crosses as wedding gifts and hung them over the beds in our home. Italian tradition for us. Have a lovely time at the wedding!

 
August 21, 20100 found this helpful

You are her parents whatever you do is meaningful. Your major gift to them was the money which they chose to spend on the reception. It's okay be happy they used it for something nice:) Now you can get them a gift (if you want), but since you are her parents I would buy the new couple something special so you don't regret it in the future. Maybe a nice dining set or even a large frame with a family picture including the groom is a very nice gift, that can even be hung at the wedding next to the cake. Remember the gift doesn't have to cost a lot of money to be meaningful plus you already gave them cash.

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If I were you I would go to snapfish.com make an album and call it "Preparing for the big day" or something like that. Take pictures of him and her when they are least expecting it, when they are busy planning. The photographer is already making one for the wedding, but you can make an album when the lovely couple were planning the happiest day of their life which is way more meaningful. The quality is great and it's extremely nice to show to guests and an A+ on the coffee table. You can pick the color and border and picture format. It's a wonderful website and a great gift for any occasion. The quality is great, too. It comes in the mail. It's more meaningful when the couple aren't posing. This way when they see the pictures they laugh and value them more:)

 
August 22, 20100 found this helpful

As you have already been very generous I think that a small, token keepsake gift like the ones mentioned in other posts would be lovely. If you can afford to give even more than you have I think the best thing to do would be to put it in a savings account as rainy day money for the couple.

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You know they will need it someday. Hope that day is far away.

 

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August 22, 20100 found this helpful

I'm from the old school; meaning I don't think parents owe their kids large expensive weddings and expensive educations. Helping out is one thing but when my kids wanted something bad enough they found a way to finance it. It may have taken longer to get it but what they learned in the process money can't buy.

 
August 25, 20100 found this helpful

Mary Hunt's site:debtproofliving.com has some books that will give them tips on saving money within the household or they also have books to save money and invest. These are great gifts for anyone graduating or getting married since we often don't have much help managing our finances and it is easy to get into debt way beyond what is possible to pay at a young age and on any income.

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This would be a very valuable gift for years to come. Good luck.

 

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August 25, 20100 found this helpful

Since you have already helped greatly with funds to help pay for the wedding and reception I personally think all that is really necessary now are huge heartfelt hugs, sweet tears and well wishes on the wedding day and maybe two short handwritten notes from the heart, one for your daughter and one for your son in law, writing shared by both you and your husband and slipped in to their hands when they are leaving the reception for their honeymoon. :-)

 
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July 27, 2006

I haven't been to a wedding in several years. Does anyone know what amount that most people give as a monetary gift?

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By Tammy (Guest Post)
July 27, 20060 found this helpful

Depends on how well you know the couple and how elaborate the wedding is.....i think 50-100 is about the norm these days....maybe a bit less for a more informal reception.

 
By Deb (Guest Post)
July 27, 20060 found this helpful

For graduations and weddings, I always try to give $30 to $50 depending on how well I know the person or how much money I have on hand. If money was tight, I would give less. Something about a $30 or more equals a substantial gift in my mind and graduations and weddings are special cases. Just include a card with a nice handwritten message, any amount should be appreciated. The card could be around a lot longer than the money. :-)

 
July 27, 20060 found this helpful

I am going with a standard of $50.00 right now. We're not in a position to offer any more than that, right now, since we're trying to pay off our credit cards. I do, however, usually purchase an American Express gift check, rather than give cash - somehow it just looks better, and it can be used anywhere. If I have to give cash, I usually get a $50 bill. I just don't like the look of a personal check.

 
By bijoubaby (Guest Post)
July 27, 20060 found this helpful

i dont think its the amount that counts, rather how you give it. ive been living in germany for about 15 years now, and germans are really good at making attractive money gifts. one of my favorite ways is to take a wooden chest and fill it with bird sand, tons of quarters and mix them all in, provide a shovel or two (or cat box shovels?) and let them search for their treasure. or if you get several people together fill up a wheelbarrow full of sand and coins!!

 

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July 27, 20060 found this helpful

I am probably not a good one to give advice on this topic as I usually like to purchase a gift. I am not cheap but if you can't or don't want to give very much cash, then atleast the recipient doesn't know what you spent with a gift. Also you might find a very nice item on sale. We received a wedding invitation for a wedding that is very far from here so of course we are not attending. We know the groom's parents but do not know the happy couple. I felt as tho receiving this invitation with them knowing we could not attend the wedding was just asking for a gift. I intend to send a small store bought or handmade gift and that's it. I don't think there is any "rule" about what you give or how much you spend. I have thought of some very thoughtful gift ideas that I can send this couple....for example, I thought to do something nice with the wedding invitation, and send the bride some of my favorite recipes.

 
July 28, 20060 found this helpful

I would say $50 to $100 depending on how close you are to the couple.

 
August 13, 20060 found this helpful

These days you give what each dinner costs per person, ie, $55 a plate, than add some on to that. It also depends on how close you are to the couple getting married. For a couple at $55 a plate you should give $110 to cover the meals and then at least $50 as a gift. I know it sounds like a lot but it's just once. Hopefully. So you give a total of at least $165.

 
By Laura (Guest Post)
May 11, 20070 found this helpful

I've read the general rule of thumb is the amount the couple spent on you and your date (i.e. give $100 if the reception is a $50/plate deal)

 
By cherri (Guest Post)
June 14, 20070 found this helpful

if the wedding is out of town and you/re not attending how soon should you send a card and monetary gift?

 
By Karen (Guest Post)
August 2, 20070 found this helpful

Hi, I would like some ideas of making a "money gift" look stylish and special, any ideas please?

 
By Ted (Guest Post)
January 3, 20080 found this helpful

At least $100. I think if you are giving less it shows you don't know how much things really cost these days! Give at least $100. If you are a couple, then I would give $200.+

 
By cioffil AT excite.com (Guest Post)
March 28, 20080 found this helpful

How do you make out the check that you are giving as a wedding present the day of the wedding? I am a friend of the bride. Do you make it out to Mr. and Mrs. or what?

Editor's Note: I would make it out to John or Mary Smith (whatever their names are), that way the husband can cash it if the wife hasn't changed her name yet.

 
September 8, 20080 found this helpful

Like everyone says, It depends on alot of things. Your income, travel distance, the wedding venue, and your status with the nuptuals. I stumbled across this site it calculates the suggest amount you should give for a wedding. Seems pretty acurate.

Oh yeah, here is the link. Don't yell at me if they are wrong....

www.theweddingenvelope.com and www.hmsig.com

CC

 
November 3, 20080 found this helpful

It all depends on your financial situation. You can only give what you have and the norm these days don't follow.

 
By Karen (Guest Post)
November 13, 20080 found this helpful

Our son and daughter-in-law received an unusual gift -- U S Postal stamps. At first we thought it was a strange gift but then thought about it and it was a good one and we remember it even 15 years later. They didn't have to purchase stamps for thank you notes and had postage for many months. It may seem strange at first but very inventive.

 
By Diva (Guest Post)
December 29, 20080 found this helpful

Most reception halls charge between $75-$150 per plate. Coming as a single person I would give $100, as a couple $200.

 
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