My name is Katie and I am 14 years old. I am a freshman in high school, and I dont shave. I would really like to but I am just too afraid to ask my mom. I am so embarresd by it and I need your adivce. I was wondering if I should just start (buy my own razors and go for it) or if I should just ask my mom.
Katie, go ahead and talk to your mom. You might be surprised its something she prob has not given any thought to and it is something you have. I remember being the middle sister my mom one day
said 'you need to watch your sister shave or ask what to do' oops I was so mortified. Anyway my oldest sis used Nair hair removal creams and I still use this method the best. And some company like
Jergens makes a lotion for your legs that will slow
growth of hair or something similar. Good luck. At 14 you really need to talk to your mom or if this is still too hard try a sister, Aunt or even dear old dad. Good luck and remember your mom was 14 once too!
I wish I could give you a big hug! My husband and I work with our church's youth group and I have had similar talks with a lot of girls on all subjects. You need to go to mom and say that you would like to ask her something that is very important to you and ask her to listen to you all the way before she answers. Sometimes moms tune kids out with out even meaning too. Explain maturely why you want to do this and then be willing to listen to her. I view high school as the beginning of learning how to be an adult and that means having mature conversations about mature things. I really want you think about this thing... If you can't talk to your mom about shaving how on earth are you going to talk to her about more important things like drinking, sex, friends.... ? You can do this, she is your mom and she loves you A LOT even if she doesn't always show it.
Katie, your own mother was 14 years old at one time too! She went through the exact same thing as you are going through now. It's hard to think of our parents as ever being kids, but they were. I think crys7881 had a great idea, just ask about getting razors. Don't buy cheap disposals either, because as it was already mentioned, they feel like "cheese graters" and it won't be a good experience for you!
I am 15 years and have never shaved before. I have given many clues, like my shirt's arm length is too small. I know she understood and gets the clue but all she says is "let's buy new shirts." I feel embarrassed to lift my arm and it's pretty annoying.
I kinda think about this all day and I get very self conscious. I can't ask her because i know she got my clues but she isn't bringing up the topic of shaving my armpits.At 15, if you think you're ready to shave, then you should be ready to stop dropping clues and just tell your mom how you feel. Just level with her about being self-conscious and embarrassed about your armpit hair, and tell her you are ready to start shaving and want her to teach you to do it the correct way so you don't knick yourself. If done in this way, she should be understanding and impressed with your approach, AND hopefully willing to teach you how. Good luck and be brave !!! Let us know how it goes with your mom.
Please consider that your mother has had you for 15 years and although you feel 15 is almost grown up, it's entirely possible your mother does not see you as 'almost grown up' and may not have any clue as to what she should be reading 'between the lines' when you make your comments about your shirts, etc.
You will learn as you grow older that other people may not always understand what you're hinting at and it's usually better to speak frankly when you're discussing an important issue/problem.
Pick a good time for a discussion and simple explain to your mother how much this is bothering you and actually is embarrassing on many occasions.
I believe she will respect your honesty and appreciate the fact that you did not make this move on your own without consulting her.
Try something like this first and if she does not approve then maybe she will set a date when she feels you will be old enough for this move.
Just so you know;
Most girls start shaving younger than 15 - even at 8 years old but this seems very young to me - however - I really believe this is something that needs to be a discussion between mother & daughter as all children's bodies grow-up differently, big difference in maturity and family 'customs' may also be involved.
Give your mother the benefit of the doubt and assume she did not take/understand the hints you've thrown her way.
Good luck.
I am a 14 year old boy and I want to shave. I am super hairy. I don't have an older brother and don't live with my dad.
I want to ask my mom, but I am an awkward person. What do I do? The hair is driving me insane.I happen to know a lot of young men who shave because of how thick the hair is on their arms, legs, and chest. At your age, this can be very difficult and not something that is easy to deal with at all. Asking your mom could be embarrassing because she might take it the wrong way. I think the best way to attack this is to find some examples of children your age online and show how their parents allow them to shave the hair on their legs in order to fit in better at school. Explain to her how it is making you so uneasy and that you just want to try it once to see if it feels better for you. In a lot of cases, these friends of mine do not shave their legs but instead, they wax the hair on their legs and chest area.
Okay so I'm Indian so I have super dark long hair everywhere, on my arms, legs, armpits, face and basically just everywhere. I have started trimming my hair slightly using scissors, but its so tedious and I never get an even natural look.
I have got my armpits waxed for my formal (I live in Australia so basically a mini prom) because my dress exposed them and yeah, but it's been a year since that and my hair is getting out of control. I'm the only girl in my family other than my mum and I'm super awkward about these topics to my mum.
I have used my brothers' razors to get rid of hair and sometimes I steal my mum's tweezers to pluck my eyebrows. I'm 13, but I have even longer hair that my older brother who is 17. I'm so ashamed because all my friends have fine light hair whereas I don't. My school has uniforms which are skirts so everyday I expose my hairy legs and I hate it. I wish I could shave, but I don't know how to confront my mum. I'm kinda hoping she realises, but even after I showed how long my leg hair is she didn't care. But my mum is always plucking, shaving, or waxing it's not fair! Any tips to make her realise that I need to start shaving or at least using Nair just any way to get rid of my gross hair.
I'm 13 and too scared to ask my mum to shave my legs and I have thick black hair. I always see boys staring! My friends say I should just shave and not ask. My mum usually waxes my underarms.
I keep asking my mom to let me shave and she said yes and got me a razor and shaving cream. She told me that she would show me how, but never did.
And I keep bringing it up and she keeps forgetting. How do I remind her again because I dont like talking about shaving that much?My mom won't let me shave my legs and facial hair. It is normal for a girl to shave at my age, but when I ask her about it she gets mad and starts to scold me. Sometimes I'm just too afraid to ask her. She even says that if I did it she'll kill me and stuff. The last time I asked her was like 4 months ago. I'm really ashamed of showing off my face because my my moustache, they even make fun of me at school. But I am still really scared to ask my mom.
Any advice?
She may be worried about you cutting yourself. Suggest a depilatory. That worked for me when I was your age.
I want to shave. I'm 14, my legs are hairy, and I'm an athlete. I don't think it looks nice if a girl has hair on her legs. I do! I asked my mom if I can shave my legs and she said no. The reason is because when she was my age she also had hair on her legs, she didn't shave because I think that her mom didn't let her. So I went and asked my dad if I can shave it and he said yes. Yes, No, which is it?
I want to shave my legs because they are really hairy and you can tell because the hair is thick and black. My sister said she would help me, but I don't know how to ask her.
My mom has noticed my leg hair, but idk?I'm a 13 year old girl. My mom won't let me shave at 13 when she was allowed to at 13. It's really embarrassing having hairy legs. I have golden blonde hair so my legs are pretty noticeable because they shine. All the other girls wears skirts and shorts because they can shave so they can wear that stuff without being self-conscious and embarrassed. I see their legs and it's embarrassing and I'm self-conscious about it.
My mom also knows I am and I have asked her before and she doesn't care how embarrassed or self-conscious I am about it. It's summer and I hate the summer because I don't like shorts. I only wear shorts in my room because if I wear them by her she looks at my legs and tells me how hairy my legs are. So does my dad when I go to his house. But my mom is the one who won't let me shave my legs so it's not my fault they are hairy. Sorry for how long the backstory or whatever took so long or so much reading.
My mother was the same. She was afraid I would cut myself. She allowed me to use Nair, a depilatory, and the problem was solved.
